shrardha/karma duties for son-in-law

[shreekanth1987]

Now a days there are many families with only one daughter. and no son (i.e. varisu). Father in-law has few brothers who also dont have son (no varisu).
Can someone explain the importance of son-in-law to that family in terms of rituals/shardha duties. which all events son-in-law is needed and which all he can skip/not necessary.

[bmbcAdmin]

Re: shrardha/karma duties for son-in-law

Now a days there are many families with only one daughter. and no son (i.e. varisu). Father in-law has few brothers who also dont have son (no varisu).
Can someone explain the importance of son-in-law to that family in terms of rituals/shardha duties. which all events son-in-law is needed and which all he can skip/not necessary.

Sri:
Son in law has nothing to do with any kind of rituals in his in laws house.
People are thinking and giving more importance to son in laws.
He is a or he may be a respectable person and nothing more than that.
He is not a blood relation to do anything. See the kartha order (given below) son in law is kept in the lower most preference order to do the karma's of his in laws.

A married girl is given-up as dhanam to a groom of different gothra (hence the gothra is important) to keep them aside from this family.
A boy can also can given-up as sweekaram to any one but in same gothra or to a different gothra but the same logic is to be maintained.
The boy given as sweekaram has no right to do any rituals of his own parents unless otherwise there is no other person in the order (see the order given).

Also, people are thinking about karma and seeking a kartha for it
but actually the karma is always dependent of a kartha.
Shastra is ordering as karma to persons what to do and what not to do
so should not worry about the karma and everyone as a kartha should know about karma
what are all to be done.

The person in the next order must do the karma if the previous person in the order is not available or not eligible or not applicable or not willing to do etc.


The order is:
1. Elder son
2. If Twins, second born is considered as elder.
3. If sons for more than one wife, elder by age to be considered.
4. If get a male child after having a boy as sweekaram, own child
should be the kartha.
5. Son's son - Powthran
6. Powthran's son
7. A son who given up as sweekaram - Dhattan.
8. His (Dhattan's) son
9. Daughter's son (Tauhitran) having right in property.
10. Tauhitran (even if there is no property).
11. Brother if joint family continues.
12. Wife (Pathni)
13. If demised is a lady, if there is no issues, son of the co-wife
if any.
14. Husband (Bhartha)
In the case of a lady, for all mentioned relations should add "Husband's" as prefix.
15. Dhuhita - Daughter
16. Brother (Braatha )
17. Brother's sons
18. Asotara bhraatha - Sitappa, periyappa sons and their sons.
19. Pita - Father
20. Matha - Mother
21. Snusha - Daughter in law.
22. Powthri - Son's daughter
23. Dhowhitri - Daughter' daughter
24. Powthrasya pathni - Son's son's wife.
25. Their (24) daughter.
26. Sweekaram given (dhattan) son's wife.
27. Bhagini (elder or younger sister)
28. Bhagineyan (Marumaan, sister's son)
29. Sapindan (any one of our 7 generation pangali)
30. Samanodhagan (three generation from mother side)
31. Matru Sapindan (Mother's 7 generation pangali)
32. Mother's mother side three generation.
33. Jaamatha (Son in law) ?? !!
[This is called Dharma shastra ?!]
34. Sakha - any friend.
35. Dhanahaari - Any person who gets the property.


If many persons availble in the same category then elder by age should gets preference without checking the mother's side or father's side.