Received invite for shrardham of a friend's father

[Mugundhan]

srI:
Dear Mama,
Adiyen Mugundhan namaskaram
Adiyen received an invite from a friend for his father's shradham recently
Long time ago, when adiyen spoke to adiyen's appa, he expressed opinion that given it is the friend's pithru aradhanam, it is not a question to attend it, so at that time. adiyen did not attend the function,
adiyen received the invite again,
given so many misconceptions about shradham in general, adiyen wanted to solicit informed opinion in this particular case. Adiyen somewhere read that pithru aradhanam is Vishnu aradhanam (probably coming from the fact that He is the antharyami of all devatai but given that we do not eat prasadams offered to para devata, adiyen believe there should be a better explanation)
Please let me know if it is okay to go to a shrardham of another family and eat the food there

Dasan,
Mugundhan

[bmbcAdmin]

Re: Received invite for shrardham of a friend's father

srI:
Dear Mama,
Adiyen Mugundhan namaskaram
Adiyen received an invite from a friend for his father's shradham recently

Dear Mugundan,
I accept all your concern.
Partaking the shradham food is not a sin.
Daily we are doing lot of sinful activities knowingly or unknowingly!
But due to one important reason, which is the main reason, and which is not explained explicitly,
it is better to avoid participating in shradhams.
After having several years of research on this I got this reason on my won.
The reason is:
Shradham should be done with great care and with full involvement.
If we start inviting too much of friends and relatives then we can not
put our involvement on shradham because, our attention will turn towards the
physical guests, we will spend most of our time and energy to do upacharam to them,
then automatically our shradhda will go down on shradham things.

So, it is better to do the shradham with the blood relations who should
pay their total involvement on that.

We can list so many reasons, but I hope no more reason is required after realizing this!
regs,
nvs

[kalyanaraman1940]

Re: Received invite for shrardham of a friend's father

Thanks Mugundhan.Very informative.Kalyanaraman

[siddhubalaji]

Re: Received invite for shrardham of a friend's father

thanks for guidance.